Sunday, May 04, 2014

Setting records wherever he goes

First openly homosexually partnered homosexual bishop in the Episcopal Church! First homosexually married bishop in the Episcopal Church! And now...

First homosexually divorced bishop in the Episcopal Church!

Yes, folks, it's himself, multiple winner of the Golden Hairshirt Award - Gene Robinson!!!

Recently, my partner and husband of 25-plus years and I decided to get divorced. While the details of our situation will remain appropriately private, I am seeking to be as open and honest in the midst of this decision as I have been in other dramatic moments of my life—coming out in 1986, falling in love, and accepting the challenge of becoming Christendom’s first openly gay priest to be elected a Bishop in the historic succession of bishops stretching back to the apostles.

I notice that neither his marriage nor his divorce to his female wife (the one he had several children with) made that hit parade, but he's a busy man. Those merely normal events don't typically result in headlines or your photo in the paper.

as I tell couples in pre-marital counseling, “Marriage is forever, and your relationship will endure—whether positively or negatively—even if the marriage formally ends.”

So marriage is forever... even when it ends. Oh, silly me... "formally ends." Which means what, exactly? That divorced people still have to live as though they're married, because the divorce isn't a "real" end of a marriage? Well, no, I don't think he means that. I'm pretty sure that once the divorce is final he's going to consider himself no longer married, or else what would be the point of doing it? That the marriage will still exist in the Next World, and when he gets there he'll find he's got multiple spouses stacked up? That seems a little primitive for an Episcopalian, though C.S. Lewis might have agreed. He actually thought that merely having sex with someone set up an eternal relationship between 2 people, which would have to be endured or enjoyed forever after death. I've never detected any such suggestion from Robinson, however.

Maybe after death we live in multiple dimensions, where every failed marriage exists as a success, completely separate from all the other marriages we may have contracted, and we can happily live in all these marriages simultaneously. If Robinson needs an occupation now that he's retired, perhaps he should try writing science fiction; that might be the basis of a darn good fantasy tale.

My newest, most favorite piece of bumper-sticker wisdom which I will hold onto in this in-between time is this: “In the end, all will be well. If all is not well, it is not yet the end.”

Actually, my current favourite is from 'King Lear': The worst is not, so long as we can say, "This is the worst."

(So who gets custody of the bulletproof jacket?)

(Thanks to Threadless for the great T-shirt design, which may be obtained at their website)